Parenthood

How does the issue in Persepolis of parenting mirror the issues involved in parenting in the U.S. today? Well obviously Marji is somewhat detached from the grown-up world, as all kids are, but there is a deeper problem with Marji’s situation. Marji is shown to misunderstand adult issues, such as the veil, and she and her classmates play with them unaware of their true purpose or meaning; the veils are a tool of restriction from the government. But this isn’t the only issue with the environment Marji grows up in, school is shut down for two years, propaganda shifts her views one way or another on topics she doesn’t fully understand, she is stuck in a place of war, and she sees the death of a family and her friend. She makes a friend, Anoosh, who opposes the government, only for him to be arrested and killed. And with all of these problems, her parents allow her to stay in this situation, and with opportunities to leave, they stay.  Not until after Marji has witnessed all the aforementioned atrocities and then acts out in class to the point where her parents fear her arrest, and have to send her away because of the danger present to her, just because she is willing to act out in school. The issue is her parents’ stubbornness, to the point that they will risk their lives just because they are against change and certain if they just “push through” everything will be alright. How dangerous does the situation need to get for you to make a change for the better? Right after the demonstrations pushed the Shah out of Iran and the Islamic Republic was put in power the propaganda was revealed. Marji’s dad explains that people didn’t vote for this new government, yet they’re here anyway, saying 99.99% of people voted for them, a certainly false statistic. This provides insight into the government and its style of rule. If they lie about how they got into power, what’s to say they won’t lie about everything else? If they lied just to get into that position of power who’s to say that won’t do desperate things to get whatever they want? Why wouldn’t they abuse their power if they’re willing to do such deplorable things to get it? As a result of this, Marji’s friend and his family leave, under the premise that it’s, “impossible to live under an Islamic regime” and that, “nobody knows the danger”.  Marji’s family sees them off and stays. If they’re close enough to see them off, they should consider their actions and maybe act on them knowing the government’s potential danger. Instead, Marji’s mom says, “Don’t worry. Everyone who left will come back. They’re just afraid of change.”  But truthfully it is the Satrapi’s who are afriad of change. They don;t want to give up their high class possesions and prifiles in Iran in favor of average or worse living in America. But however less-favorable the jobs or class system may be for them in America, it cannot be worse than an Islamic regime. But Marji isn’t aware of this and due to her parents opinions and consequential actions. Similarily, parents in the U.S don’t raise kids anymore, they sit them in front of an iPhone or TV from ages 6-16 and expect them to be grown up. Even worse than misleadiong kids or causing them to suffer from misinformation, kids are detached. Marji is minimally detached due to the misninofrmartion and sheltering she’s recieved. But it is significantly worse in the U.S.  Parents face a predicament, to either shelter and protect their child as possible, dooming them to experience culturre shock as young adults or to alow their children’s easily influenced minds to face the world. Most parents are against at least a portion fo the influences society pushes on childrena nd therefore seek some amount of sheltering for theior kdis. But the balance for this is hard and oftentimes the child ends up at the screen of an electronic device. This may be seen as a form of “balance” because they’re not susceptible to all of society and only what is displayed on these evices, but content that parents would generally be agaisnt showing their kids, consistently seeps through. Parent strugle to raise kids well, and Marji’s cultural detachment mirrors this in a sort of way.

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  1. Thanks for this thoughtful post. I think the parents here are raising Marji to be an independent thinker in spite of all the questionable choices they make, and it works. They do love her and she knows it; it’s important, as the new religion does not reveal a loving God in any way. Her self esteem is strong all through her adolescence. The connection you make to parents in the US today is a good one. The “predicament” as you call it is inescapable. In order for kids to learn to make good choices, they have to see the world for what it is when they are able to process that knowledge; the instruction and example of their parents at these critical points of awareness is vital. If they are too sheltered they never grow and fail to fulfill their potential, and if they are let loose without timely parental intervention they can easily drift to the edge. It is a fine line to walk!

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